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Being a woman

31 Oct

“Being a woman is expensive” that’s the conclusion my 19-year-old cousin got after my friend’s wedding in late October.

The discussion began because he said that he was ready quick and easy: just took a shower, put on his suit and shoes and brush his hair. There, ready.

Meanwhile I had to began preparing the night before, when I put on a couple of face masks and pluck all the undesired body hair (according to this culture and beauty standards). The next day I woke up early, took a shower, put on a nice dress with matching stilettos, go to a hair salon and get a beautiful updo, pretty makeup and finish everything with fine jewelry.

Obviously dress, shoes, hair and party makeup cost and are seldom used (unless all your friends are marrying, which isn’t my case). Also, stilettos are not the most comfortable shoes to dance at a party, updos most of the time are made of hairpins and the head hurts after some hours.

Being a Man

On the other hand, men doesn’t have it that easy either. On our way to the party, my cousin had an argument with another man in the traffic jam and at the party both photographer and waiter asked him to pay for the services. He was my invitee so I paid everything, but still: society expects men pay for most of these things.

What other things am i missing? About being a woman? And being a man?

Buying a dress

19 Oct

Next Saturday is my best friend’s wedding and so I went to buy a dress.

I was looking for a nice cocktail dress, one that nicely fits the time and the occasion, because going to a wedding is high honor: is a party that costs  a lot of money, so the groom and bride expect you to deliver.

But I thought I’d have no problem finding a dress, I mean, when I was looking for dresses before (graduation parties, nights out, birthdays) I had no problem with that, I just had to find a dress that I really liked, try it, it fits nicely, then I bought it and that’s it.

Except I’m almost 26 now. My body is different now. Not that I had children or something. Just different. I’m a little fatter now and it notices with some dress forms. It’s time to accept my age, exercise a few days a week, eat healthier… that kind of stuff.

Today I found the right dress, I just need the makeup and hairstyle. Suggestions?


#NaNoWriMo 2015 (Prep)

9 Oct

Este año decidí entrar a #NaNoWriMo y tengo todo el miedo del mundo de no terminar, porque el año pasado sólo me registré y ni siquiera empecé (y el 90% de los que empiezan, no terminan).

Así que este año me estoy preparando para “no fallar”:

  • Preparo un outline
  • También un calendario para saber qué tengo que escribir cada día
  • Ya tengo mi hoja en excel para contar mis avances diarios
  • “Entreno” este octubre para que no se haga tan pesado
  • Necesito un “writing partner” para obligarme a escribir cada día, si saben de alguien, plis avísenme.
  • Todavía no firmo el Agreement del mes, pero no pasa de esta semana.
  • Y pues… creo que ya.

Por el momento, este es mi “Contador de Palabras” para este noviembre y lo actualizaré cada semana 

0 / 50000

¿Hasta las 50K palabras?

I love Barbie

12 Ago

Barbie is, arguably, the most famous doll of Western civilization. Although critics about her body shape, general image and accusatory reports for being “gender-stereotyped” are countless, I disagree.

I grew up reading the Mexican version of Barbie Magazine and playing with different versions of the dolls: from the school teacher to the veterinarian, passing for the ballerina and the gymnast. The magazine included messages about friendship, self-esteem, problem-solving and caring for others, Barbie’s core values. But there’s more.

The story about it’s creation says Barbie was created by Ruth Handler, who was inspired by German doll Bild Lilli: a sassy, post-war woman, aware of her sexiness, wearing noticeable makeup, who earn her own money as a secretary and talked openly about sex, fashion and picked on politicians and authority in general.

Barbie, on the other hand, was a design as a children’s toy, a doll to dress, an evolution from paper dolls you cut and dress (you might be able to find some at a stationer’s shop).

Still, Barbie kept some of Lilli’s characteristics: she has a job, has a slim, curvy body, wears makeup and is a fashion icon. Actually, Barbie has had 150 professions, up until her 50th anniversary on 2009, including astronaut, racing pilot, doctor, actress, engineer, journalist and nurse. You can even check her Linkedin page now.

She has a whole line of cool stuff, from sports cars to airplanes; the best clothes and accessories, houses… I’m not thinking how much she has, but at how she depends on no one to buy her stuff. (Ken’s job is still unknown).

And yet, with so much to do she finds time to hang out with friends and boyfriend Ken, look after her younger sisters and pets while is dress for the occasion, has perfect makeup and still wears a smile.

She is telling us to assume our femininity and be whatever we want to be, who cares if it’s a “traditionally male” profession! Also, to enjoy and do our best EVERYDAY, to work smart and hard, to learn from others, to be kind and to smile Ü Because if you want something, you can get it on your terms, you are both smart and strong to decide on your own and achieve it.

Wall-E and the empowerment of women

8 Jul

So, the other day I was watching Wall-E the Pixar movie, and I’ve been watching a lot of “girl power” stuff recently, so I wasn’t surprised when I recognized different female archetypes in the movie.

But, what’s an archetype? An archetype is “the original pattern or model of which all things of the same type are representations or copies” (, 2014).

So, what does “different female archetype means?” Traditionally, women are depicted as “damsel in distress” because it fits “desirable” characteristics in women: fragile, weak, silly.

But EVE’s character in Wall-E is completely different: she’s independent and strong, smart and belongs to the elite robot board in the Axioma.

On the other hand, Wall-E is a cleaning robot, innocent, romantic and convinced of doing what’s right just because.

We can argue than EVE is a damsel in distress at some point, but it’s her ability what allows Wall-E’s survival at the end of the film.

What you think?

-“Archetype.” Merriam-Webster, n.d. Web. 6 July 2014. <;


Loveletter to a job

7 Jul

Dear writing job,

I know you are out there, maybe not that right now, but in the future. Or maybe you do exist now.

I dream of you at night. And I dream of you during the day. And I am ready for us to meet.

I know certain things about you:

You are a proper writing job. A job for me to learn a lot of wonderful and lovely things about craft and storytelling and analysis and so much more. To do magic with my current abilities and develop new ones. To imagine and share knowledge and worlds and find new characters and creatures. To know I have enough patience to rewrite as much as needed.

You are special. Your are more than special. You are a marvelous dayly-challenge.

You live in a unique place. Nothing steno-pool about you. You are one of a kind and you know it. It’s more about what you are like and what it is like to be with you.

I love to wake up to you, and sleep after you.

You allow me a good, happy, full-of-love life.

You have the perfect remuneration for me. You let me interact with lovely and wonderful people. Its pleasant to be near you. You are infused with good.

Where you are. You live in Mexico City, preferable in the North. (Near my home= ideal). Or anywhere in the world, the magic of Internet allows you to be everywhere.

Pluses. I don’t need you to have these things, but I’d really liked them. You know what would be great? Work with BBC writers in some sort of way, either BBC abroad or BBC America.

Your qualities.

Light. Safety. Possibility. Playfulness and sillyness. Joyful, wondrous, unexpected. Independent. Trustful. Knowledgeable. Creative. Interesting. A job where I feel like I belong.

Important things. You are all about possibility. Which means I have a lot of projects that are creative, interesting, unexpected things.

This is not about being a writing-robot. You won’t be a pre-fabricated-story agency or something like that. This isn’t meant to be a place that has regular workers from 9 to 5.

It’s meant to be magical. And special projects will happen there when they happen. You are for the people who enjoy great stories.

You can move between media like novels, comics, videos, blogs, series, internet, spots or films, but you are always about play. It will be awesome.

How this could work. I don’t know. I don’t even know if someone is looking for a writer or if I’ll have to create you myself. Nor do I know exactly how we’re going to meet each other. Luck? Magic? Crazy coincidence?

Maybe someone who reads this letter knows about you. Maybe you are like de “Bad Wolf” and create yourself. Maybe one or our friends or connections knows something.

We can either meet you or find cool supporting jobs so the necessary money shows up every month – or something else entirely.

I’m going to focus on what it’s going to be like to be connected to you, and figure out the rest as things begin to move.

My commitment. To love you. To be patient and appreciate everything about you. To learn every day and don’t be mean to you.

We will work together wonderful stories. We will meet incredible characters. We will have silly comedies and non-foolish dramas.

You will be a job where the air is different. Where the creativeness of stories, energy of characters, playfulness of words, powerfulness of themes will create a resonance of everything is better with you.

I will never take us too seriously, but I will always treat you with respect and love.

I will keep the energy clear and infuse you with belonging.

You are loved and adored already. Just for existing. Even if right now you only exist in my head. I love you.

This post was inspired on Havi’s “Loveletter to a playground”
Havi Brooks runs The Fluent Self

What’s a Chronotope?

14 Jun

The relation between time and space, expressed aesthetically in a novel is called chronotope. (Revista Chilena de Literatura, 2008).

This means that a chronotope is not a merely informative figure telling us both where we are and what age or era we are, but also is doing that in an artistic way.

This concept comes from the Relativity Theory of Einstein, but was introduced by Mijail Bajtin to literature and text analysis. (Revista Chilena de Literatura, 2008)

The chronotope means that time and space are linked forever, in narrative this means that, if we drastically change one of them, like King Arthur’s tale changes from Middle Age’s to nowadays, the story will have to change, it can’t be the same in such a different context.

By extension, changing the place will also change the story core. It will also allow time games. (Revista Chilena de Literatura, 2008)

An example

At Anna Gavalda’s novel, I wish someone were waiting for me somewhere, we know we’re in modern France, thanks to the car models described, the language, and more aesthetically when the man who’s writing a chronic about how he was responsible for an awful car accident at the highway.

He is in his present, he knows he did it and writes a report about what happened and how, he hopes he understands something by reading it, yet he doubts.

In his report, we realised that he was imprudent but not malicious, and that he did cause the accident. The narrative of this report is more a memory than a flashback, because the character y telling us what happened, instead of living it all again. (Gavalda, 2008).

Keep in mind that Gavalda’s novel is written as a series of short stories, and each one has their own chronotopes to share.

Revista Chilena de Literatura. (2008, November). El cronotopo de la exclusión en tres novelas de la generación del 38. Revista Chilena de Literatura, 73, 163-188. Retrieved from

Gavalda, Anna. (2008). I Wish Someone Were Waiting for me Somewhere. Amazon.